Tuesday, June 5, 2012

Good night, sweetheart, good night

4:45 a.m.

The house was quiet. The sky was dark. My bed was warm. Everything about this morning screamed, "Sleep. And then sleep some more."

There was a part of me, though, that was pulling my body from underneath the quilt toward the dresser where I had laid out my running clothes. I had set the intention the night before to run a few early miles before my guys woke up and tried to set myself up for success. The three wakings by my lovely son made my legs heavy and my body tired. I decided to listen to the morning: I was sleeping.

But that's not the point of this story. No, the point of this story is that I could actually leave my bed at 4:45 a.m. to run with no worries. "Why?" you ask.

Well, my friends, Mr. Miles has officially moved back to his crib. His cute little behind has not been in our bed since the infamous night two weeks ago when he peed on me after punching me in the face for an hour.

Mark and I had always said that we would move away from the family bed when it was time for us and not what other people said. I think we secretly hoped that he would just start sleeping through the night and we would never have to go through sleep training but ... yeah, babies are fickle creatures.

After we managed that first night in the crib, Mark and I decided that we would hunker down, stay strong and make Miles sleep in his room - relying heavily on our bed time routine to set the stage for mid-night practices.

Between 6:30 and 7 p.m., depending on that day's nap schedule, Mark will change Miles' diaper and get him into jammies while I make a 6-ounce bottle. When Miles is ready, I grab him, the bottle and a paci and head upstairs to his room. We sit in the Ikea Poang chair (a million times better than a damn glider), and Miles takes his bottle. When he's finished, in a very ninja-like fashion, I replace the bottle with the paci. We sit for a bit and cuddle before I put him in the crib.

I used to wait until he was 137 percent asleep before putting him down but now I don't care. Last night, he was out. Other nights, he might fuss or say "dog, gog, dog, og" to soothe himself. Unless he screams for 10 minutes (or, what seems like 10 minutes), I let him be.

Until he wakes up, that is. Miles still gets up about once a night, anywhere between 12:30 and 3:30. I hear him first (always, always) and head to the bathroom. I do stuff, wash my hands and make the bottle. I take that bad boy into Miles' room, where I quickly scoop him up, grope for the paci and head back to the Poang chair. He has a bottle, I try to stay restfully awake. When he's done, he gets the paci, a few cuddles and then heads back to bed.

It's at this point when we started this process that I feared Miles would show his fiery personality and scream for ages. I was going to regale you with stories of toughing it out and ear plugs. But I can't. The transition has been remarkably smooth, and there have been just a few occasions where I kick Mark out of bed to get Miles back to sleep. In fact, the only times we (read: Mark) have been tempted to break our rule is the random 4:15 wakeup call.

But I resist that cute face, opting to try a second bottle - which has yet to fail me. Miles goes back to sleep until the blissful hour of 6 or 6:30.

And I say blissful because it is. When we were doing the whole co-sleeping thing, Miles was up by 6 and more likely by 5:45. Now that he is in his own space, he sleeps better. There are fewer middle of the night wakings; it takes less time to get him back to sleep after a bottle; and he sleeps later.

Mark and I are sleeping better, too, making us a much happier family. A happier family because we did what was right for us when it was right for us.


  1. So glad things are going well!

    We have a Poang chair in Leo's room, too. It's so comfortable!

  2. You've got to trust your own instincts and do what is good for you when you are ready! I sleep trained from the time that Hanna was 3 weeks old (just because she would never sleep unless I just let her cry it out, she could nurse ALL night, and wouldn't take a binky at the time). It took me until about 2 months ago to get her to sleep throughout the night (11 hours with no interruption) and it is the best thing ever!
    I remember just a few months ago my brother tried to tell me that I needed to let her cry it out when she would get up in the middle of the night, but only I knew that the cries would only get worse if I didn't go and help soothe her back to sleep. Only I know my child, and I do whats best for her!
    Glad to hear it is going well so far!

  3. Glad it's going smoothly! (but, you know, Mark could do the midnight bottle too sometimes...just sayin'- do what works for you both, but don't be a martyr and then end up resentful. NOT that I ever did that *cough*)

  4. Glad to hear things are going well!

    My son is 5 months and we tried to sleep train using a gentle "cry it out" method but it just didn't work for our family. I couldn't handle it!

    You are doing an awesome job =)

  5. Oh, yay, I'm so happy for this post. Please forgive me for sounding angry and resentful, but it's nice to hear that other families have sleeping issues and that they're still getting up in the middle of the night once in a while, and most of all, that they did what felt right instead of relying a book or Google.

    Charlotte's been in her crib for a while now, but she's taken to a good 2:30-4:30 a.m. waking most nights. If we're lucky, she goes right back down with a pop of the paci, but other nights, she's been getting into bed with us. As you said, it's what works for right now. I'm hoping that when I'm done with work in 7 days (not that I'm counting or anything) that we can try to keep her in the crib full-time.

    Anywho, kudos on a smooth transition. Enjoy your extra sleep!!

  6. So happy for you that it is all working out and Miles is a sleepy boy in his crib. We still don't have anything resembling a schedule in this house and Lucas is up all the time at night. The magic 10 lbs and sleeping thru the night didn't happen in our house and he still wakes every 2.5-3 hours to sleep. On Sunday night he was awake for all of 1.5 hours. Twas awesome..ughh :(

    You are doing an awesome job and I'm so jealous of your new sleep!

  7. Yay for transitioning and living through it. yay for Miles sleeping until after 6. Yay for you getting out of bed at 4:45 (OMG suck!) Yay for you getting to run (sooo jealous!). Yay Yay Yay.

    Seriously how cute is his tiny hiney up in the air in those footie jammies - really? Heart breaker in the making!

  8. yay for a smooth transition! I don't have kids, obviously, but I know that's no small feat. I love that last pic, so stinkin cute. Okay fine, all the pics are cute, as per usual :)