tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6137646469767562765.post8962995615614878316..comments2024-01-27T01:00:53.693-05:00Comments on Footnotes: Burden of proofKimberly http://www.blogger.com/profile/08159387703524634028noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6137646469767562765.post-71567207094599392172013-10-16T15:56:28.445-04:002013-10-16T15:56:28.445-04:00In medical school, I learned that people enact cha...In medical school, I learned that people enact change in stages (Google tells me what I learned is the "transtheoretical model") -- pre-contemplation, contemplation, preparation, action, maintenance. The teaching was that you can't move someone more than one stage at a time. If a smoker isn't even considering quitting, all you can do is plant the seed of an idea. If a loved one isn't yet ready to consider a weight loss program, plant the seed, let them know you're there if they want to learn more, and then let the seed germinate. It's agonizing when you want someone to change and they're not ready. But you're right, they have to make the change. You'll be ready to help when the time comes.<br /><br />Good luck.Robynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14582049406998358870noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6137646469767562765.post-6337762786212453442013-10-16T15:46:40.628-04:002013-10-16T15:46:40.628-04:00I know exactly how you feel. It kills me that I c...I know exactly how you feel. It kills me that I can't make some of my loved ones change their habits. They don't seem to understand that I do it because I want to be around for the long haul and I want them to be with me!Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08778678789173107387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6137646469767562765.post-41978778584153679272013-10-16T15:45:41.674-04:002013-10-16T15:45:41.674-04:00I could've written this about my mom, who has ...I could've written this about my mom, who has type 2 diabetes, heart disease, all of the above. I could've also written this about my mil who I have suspected has had diabetes for awhile now and finally came out and said so. Have either of them changed? Nope. It's very very sad and so hard to just sit by and watch. But you are absolutely right, there is no way you can force someone to change unless they truly want it. Being a good example is all you can do. Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02946675419746616433noreply@blogger.com